“The problem is all inside your head, she said to me
The answer is easy if you take it logically
I’d like to help you in your struggle to be free
There must be fifty ways to leave your lover.”
— Simon and Garfunkel
It’s time to say goodbye. Despite your best efforts, the relationship has hit the skids. You want out without inflicting too much pain. Just because you have decided to move on doesn’t mean your lover is in the same place.
Here at Lunar Cafe, we recently published a blog to help you deal with a breakup. We gave you advice about how to deal if someone breaks up with you. But what if you are looking for a way to break up with them instead?
Take a look at each zodiac sign below; we’ve listed some tips and tricks on how to break up with each sign without breaking hearts (too much).
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Endings can be painful for Aries, especially if it’s not their idea. If Aries feels they are being dropped or disrespected, drama is sure to result.
If you want out of a coupling with your Aries partner, handle them with care. Convince them that it’s their idea, and it will be smooth sailing.
It’s best not to spend a lot of time trying to “talk it out” with an Aries. Don’t try to explain things to them. The denial can be too deep.
The thing to remember is that once Aries is finished with a relationship, they are completely done. So make sure that you are through, too. Don’t try to stay friends (not immediately anyway). A quick, complete break is best with an Aries.
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Taurus the Bull is famous for their stubbornness. You aren’t going to change them. Just make sure you don’t set off the angry Bull charge.
Treat your ex with kindness and respect. It’s not a good idea to angrily confront this sun sign. You can win a battle and lose a war. Taurus has a long memory and all the patience in the world. So don’t tempt fate.
They are hard to defeat in custody battles or property settlement disputes. It’s better if you can work out all the details in advance. Remember you are both adults here.
So be calm and let the Taurus down easy. If you are wise, you will not try to cheat in a relationship with them.
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Breaking up with a Gemini? Before you tell them goodbye, they may already be gone. It doesn’t mean they didn’t love you. They just don’t have an inclination to stay around and experience heartbreak.
If you are looking for closure, you have hooked up with the wrong sun sign. Gemini is not one to spend time and energy belaboring the past. They are not comfortable with self-pity. They don’t like to talk about feelings.
They can talk for hours on almost any topic, but when it comes to affairs of the heart, not so much. When it’s time for fight or flight, they will be out the door and down the street.
Most Geminis don’t have a problem with moving on. The minute you break up with them, the rules change. They can easily transition into being “friends” again or even a friend with benefits. But make no mistake, they feel free to look for love elsewhere.
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Breaking up with a Cancer can be a tragedy in the making. More than almost any sign, they have trouble letting go. And like all of the water signs, they can get depressed when love walks out the door.
There is no easy way to break-up with your Cancer mate. But try not to shock or surprise them. If you have been unhappy for some time, share that information. Be honest with them.
These are men and women that love to nest. When it comes to splitting up the assets, you might be surprised at how much of the “stuff” belongs to your Cancer ex.
When you leave them, count on leaving with what you came with. And don’t lead them on or encourage the idea that you might get back together again.
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Leo has the power of the sun. They are also the King and Queen of dramatic endings.
Not interested in partaking in all the drama, second-guessing, accusations, angry conflict and “I told you so’s”? Then you might want to try and find a time when your ex isn’t home to move your stuff out. Leos are going to roar when you leave.
Looking for a quick exit with no recriminations? Then don’t try to get them to take responsibility. Don’t spend a lot of time trying to explain what they did wrong. Be kind. A little flattery still goes a long way with a Leo.
Admit that you haven’t been bored. Even though the relationship has run its course, you may be tempted to hook up again in the future. So avoid a messy break-up whenever possible with the Lion or Lioness.
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When Virgo is most critical and angry, remember that they are hardest on themselves. Time to say goodbye to a Virgo? They may need closure. It will be a painful coming to terms.
Virgo is associated with the planet Mercury. These analytical people are concerned about their responsibility in the breakup. Once they have it figured out, it’s time for them to move on.
Perhaps their perfectionism drove you crazy while you were together. You can use that to your advantage now. Don’t try to “ghost” them or text them goodbye. Be honest and take your fair share of the blame. You may be surprised how easy it is.
It’s a sure sign that he or she is moving on if they get a gym membership and start eating healthy again. The Virgo learns from every failure and has a tendency to “trade up.” You may be a little jealous when you see them with their brand new lover. But your Virgo ex is unlikely to come back to you once they leave.
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Saying goodbye to Venus’s child? Well, the Libra may be hiding a seriously sentimental streak. All through the relationship, you probably doubted that they even cared. Perhaps you thought they may even be cheating.
The minute you are ready to cut all ties, your Libra is suddenly “all in” and relationship-focused.
If you are trying to break up with a Libra, be aware that they can turn that Venus on whenever they want. They may talk you out of it!
Explain that you are both to blame, it can’t be salvaged and you both deserve future happiness. Enough said!
Libra may be more comfortable if they are doing the breaking up. They have been known to get back together so they can do the breaking up.
Regardless of how emotional they react, they mend quickly. The Libra is not a natural loner. They will gravitate to other people quickly. They may walk out the door in tears. Just remember your ex has a Teflon heart and a defiant streak of optimism where romance is concerned. The Venus influence will prevail. They will quickly be on the mend.
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Do you plan on leaving a Scorpio lover? Are you a little nervous?
Well, you definitely gave it your all. A love affair with Scorpio can take you to new heights. It can also be pretty traumatic and devastating. So if the a romance was difficult, the ending is bound to be worse.
Scorpio is a fixed sign ruled by Pluto, the planet of death and endings. And a fixed, angry Scorpio is not how you want this ending to play out.
Most Scorpios have problems letting go. So don’t try to convince them for too long. You are not going to make it easier for either of you by pleading a case.
This is the time to develop an exit strategy. Make sure the finances are split and the lawyers are working. It’s not a bad idea to hire the movers in advance of the break-up talk.
Pluto is not just about endings; this planet is the mother of renewals and second chances. There may be a time in the future when you and your ex reconcile. After all, the sex was amazing, and the emotion ran so incredibly deep. Never say never where a Scorpio is concerned.
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So your soon-to-be ex is a bright-eyed, free-spirited Sagittarius? This break-up does not have to be so bad.
Sagittarius may be secretly happy that you thought of breaking up first.
They will respect honesty. Even though a Sagittarian idea of honesty may be different than yours or mine. The point is, they are willing to talk about what’s going on. The more straightforward and open the discussion, the better.
If you keep your sense of humor and maintain your composure, so will they. If you want to stay amicable with a Sagittarius, look at the breakup as a “teaching” moment.
Perhaps you and your soon-to-be ex can plan a breakup party and celebrate the mutual decision to move on. In most cases, you can stay friends with a Sagittarius. In some cases, you can even stay friends with benefits.
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Capricorn is not a quitter. They don’t like to give up on love. Actually, they don’t like to give up on anything. So if it’s time to say goodbye, you may have some convincing to do.
If you are certain that you haven’t overlooked their gentle, loyal and dependable qualities, then proceed with the breakup planning. Make sure that you want out, because it’s a rare Capricorn that gives second chances in love.
You can expect them to be hurt, angry and depressed. But they are also going to burn bridges. A Capricorn ex will cut you off of social media and change their phone number. They isolate when they are hurt. They often indulge in solitary grieving.
They already had trouble expressing themselves, and they aren’t interested in talking it out now.
A sense of humor is the only saving grace to this situation. If you can manage a breakup with a light touch and a little wit, they may not spiral out of control. Be as kind as possible, because Capricorns have fragile hearts.
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Has your Aquarius seemed detached? Do you sense the intimacy issues? Are you having trouble figuring out who is really doing the breaking up?
Well, they can be confusing, after all. And they are impossible to put in a box. So if you are headed for the door, they may beat you there.
The Aquarius ex is usually highly evolved. They are not likely to be jealous. They will rarely cause a scene or participate in a fight. The Aquarius will not beg you to stay or insist that you should give it another chance.
They rarely hold grudges, and they will not pine away when you are gone. This does not mean that they don’t care.
The good news is that you may still be friends after the relationship is over. And the Aquarius makes a wonderful friend. But if you want more than a friendship in the future, they may not be willing to go there.
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A Pisces is all about feelings. They feel the depths of the ocean and the heights of love. They are creative and sensitive people.
When you are loved by a Pisces, it’s hard to break up. You know you are going to break their heart. It’s going to be a painful goodbye.
There are two rules to follow in a breakup with Neptune’s children.
1) Reassure them that you are going to be okay. Let them know they are going to be just fine and you will always love them.
2) Don’t keep going back to this relationship. You need a clean break. You may still love the mysterious, beautiful Pisces. But making up to break up will only extend the pain.
It may seem like the fish will not make it through. There is nothing sadder than the pain that they cannot hide.
But give them time. Let them go. Healing is a process. In this case, it may seem like a long one. If you can’t let go and move on, they certainly can’t. If it’s over, get out of the way and let their healing begin.