You’ve fallen for a King of Wands… or perhaps that should be The King of Wands? Or maybe you think your King is closer to the realm of Cups, Swords, or Pentacles? Whichever it is, it shows you are done with the immaturity of Knights. You’ve left the boys behind and are now in love with a man. Determine which suit, or combination of suits, your man belongs to; we’ll help you to see past his exterior, to get to know the person beneath.
Kings are leaders, or at least the head of their family, group, business or organization. They have reached maturity. They may be young men or old. They are distinguishable from knights by their presence and authority. You know with absolute clarity when your knight has reached kingship. Some, of course, never do.
The King of Wands – General Characteristics
Element – Fire, Sun sign – Aries
Confident, enthusiastic, dynamic, masculine, charismatic, ambitious, passionate, hot-tempered, impatient, irritable. Those descriptors sum up the King of Wands well. That’s what you see on the outside, the face he presents to the world. On the inside, well it’s more of the same. He hasn’t got anything to hide. This guy is brimming with self-belief. He uses charm, flattery and the sheer force of his personality to get people on his side. He thrives on new experiences, risk-taking and sheer exhilaration. Confinement is his worst nightmare, though he has great drive and focus to complete the task at hand.
His negative traits are due to his eagerness to get things done. He can’t be doing with trivialities and becomes impatient when other people don’t share his vision or obstacles get in his way. He hates dealing with inanimate objects that don’t perform as they should. Ever seen a King of Wands wrestling with a manual can opener?
How to Attract a King of Wands
To catch the eye of your King of Wands, he needs to see you in a crowd, preferably a glamorous party. Dress flamboyantly, yet elegantly. He admires women with a sense of style and who are comfortable in their own skin. In other words, he wants to see a reflection of himself. Expect him to take you clubbing, or on a hunting expedition. Be prepared for anything.
The King of Wands in a Relationship
Independence is the key factor in a relationship with the King of Wands. He cannot abide clingy people. Prove your ability to stand on your own two feet and he will support you in every endeavor. This also means that you can never rein him in. There is every chance he will be unfaithful – he loves and adores the female sex. Yet, many women who love a King of Wands remain confident he will always return to the one he loves. It takes a special person to keep his interest. She has to be equally passionate and ambitious in her interests. He appreciates a strong bond that is so flexible that both parties can pursue their dreams. Are you woman enough for this man?
The King of Cups – General Characteristics
Element – Water, Sun sign – Cancer
Wise, calm, tolerant, chivalrous, romantic, considerate, sensitive, emotional, quiet, secretive, moody. These are the key terms for the King of Cups. Generally, he is a true gentleman. He puts the comfort of others before his own. He is kind and easy-going. The King of Cups is a family man, he loves to be with his kids and grandkids. He shares their triumphs and their failures. He is non-judgmental and is always ready to listen. He’ll be happily working in the voluntary sector, or he could be stuck in a job entirely unsuitable for him. He prefers solitude to crowds.
He does have a darker side. Most King of Wands types are fairly open, but some hide their true nature. He sometimes suffers from depression and resentment. Occasionally, a King of Cups will turn to alcohol or drugs, believing they will help him process his emotions.
How to Attract a King of Cups
This King will fall in love if he sees you in a caring role. Perhaps you will meet in a volunteering situation or maybe you will be entertaining a child. He is attracted to gentle, natural looking women who enjoy quiet conversation. Dress conservatively and prettily. Expect him to offer to cook a meal for you after a pleasant walk on the beach.
The King of Cups in a Relationship
The King of Cups has usually suffered a lot of heartbreak in his life, after all this is the suit of emotion. He has learned to temper his extreme feelings and manages to channel them into positivity. Nevertheless, it will be wise to bear in mind that a current of emotions runs right through this man. He appreciates a strong woman, but she will have to have sensitivity and empathy to maintain a loving connection with the King of Cups. He is loyal and romantic, gentle and loving, but don’t expect him to be something he isn’t; you will be disappointed. If tenderness and consideration are important to you, then the King of Cups will be the man for you.
The King of Swords – General Characteristics
Element – Air, Sun sign – Libra/Aquarius
Intellectual, analytical, logical, communicator, methodical, principled, fair, serious, unemotional, distant, controlling, perfectionist. These keywords fit the King of Swords to a tee. He has a thirst for knowledge, an eye for detail and little interest in things he deems to be unimportant. He is a political animal, and enjoys analyzing people’s motives to predict outcomes based on their behavior. He is an observer, rather than a leader, and easily rises to the top in a professional capacity.
His negative traits appear when he takes his perfectionism to the extreme. He becomes a bit of a tyrant and a manipulator. He may engineer situations to work in his favor without caring about the consequences. He has a temper, but it manifests in a cold, calm manner.
How to Attract a King of Swords
You will catch the attention of a King of Swords type in a working environment. Impress him with your business-like attire, your efficiency and your crisp, matter-of-fact manner. Wear black or navy blue, stockings and stilettos. Minimal make-up. Expect him to ask you out for a lunchtime drink. Refuse alcohol and drink mineral water or espresso.
The King of Swords in a Relationship
To sustain a relationship with the King of Swords takes a special kind of woman. She’ll be emotionally self-sufficient, as it’s unlikely there will be an overt exchange of romantic love in this relationship. Don’t kid yourself though, the King of Swords depends on her enormously and, if the two can reach an understanding, they will form an unbreakable connection. Feelings may remain unspoken, yet they are there. Once forged, this bond stays strong.
The King of Pentacles – General Characteristics
Element – Earth, Sun sign – Capricorn
Hard-worker, practical, pragmatic, earthy, sexy, generous, resourceful, conservative, traditionalist, cautious, possessive. These are the qualities that best describe the usually genial King of Pentacles. He’s a self-made man, he’s proud of how far he has come since his humble beginnings. And he’s not averse to sounding his own trumpet. He’s kind and considerate without being overly emotional. He’s clever and shrewd without being cold. The King of Pentacles is just as comfortable at home with his family as he is in a crowded room.
His negative side is usually connected to an obsession with making money. The roots of his fear of poverty lie in his early years. He is fearful of losing everything and returning to having nothing. This manifests in a tendency to miserliness and distrust.
How to Attract a King of Pentacles
You are likely to be a woman running her own business, or even his secretary. He is a forgiving boss, attracted to feminine women who have a practical outlook. He’ll like you even more if you can share a bawdy joke or two, drink him under the table, prepare a good meal and have child-bearing hips. After all, as a traditionalist, he needs to pass on his legacy.
The King of Pentacles in a Relationship
He’s a jolly sort most of the time, so his partner will reap the rewards of being the lover of a well-off man. He will treat her like his queen, making sure she displays the evidence of his wealth for all to see. Out of the public eye, he is down-to-earth, reasonable and easy to get on with. He has deep passion and is often spiritually motivated. He is a good father, a wonderful grandfather and a loving husband. There may be problems in the early years, as both partners struggle with the demands of his work, the likelihood of poverty and the possibility of cheating. Once past all that, the relationship matures as stability and security become the key factors.
You will find that most men are a combination of at least two Kings. Some will have Knight and Queen characteristics. However, it is usually easy to see the court card that most resembles their personality. Have a little fun with this: make a list of men you know and assign them to one of the four Kings. Journal about your interactions, and how they fit their designated royal character.
Images from the Druidcraft Tarot