It’s difficult to get over a relationship when that person filled your whole life for a long time. You cannot stop your thoughts and feelings returning again and again to the time you spent together. You may feel sad, lonely, angry, lost, or bereft. As you lie awake wondering what went wrong, how you could have made it better or what you might have said, you are preventing yourself moving forward because no matter what you think about the relationship, in this moment it is over.
Of course, it’s possible to reignite the flames of passion and rescue the love you had, but you cannot do that while your heart is full of regrets and negativity. To open your heart to the future, you have to let go of the past. An effective way of doing this is by performing a private tarot or oracle card ritual.
Reading Cards for Yourself
Tarot reading for yourself causes you to think more analytically and work through the feelings caused by events of the past. You will assess where you are, emotionally. You will embrace the future one step at a time by clarifying your intentions. You will finally step off that wheel of pain and self-torture.
Preparing for the Reading Ritual
This tarot spread should be performed where you won’t be disturbed. You need some time, at least two hours, to carry out the reading, and also to process whatever information and feelings arise during and afterward. As well as your tarot or oracle cards, you need a journal to record the reading and your responses to the questions posed. If you don’t want to write, you could record yourself speaking.
This spread uses seven cards to correspond to the seven main chakras in the body. Don’t worry, you don’t have to know anything about chakras to perform this reading. It is important to understand that the answers must come from within yourself. Don’t rely on the cards – they are there to prompt and guide you, nothing more.
Prepare yourself for the reading ritual. Turn off any devices that could interrupt you. Light a candle and perhaps some incense. They are not necessary, but help to promote a restful and peaceful atmosphere.
The Chakra Reading
Shuffle your cards well. Ensure all the cards are the same way – you won’t be needing reversals. Lay them face down so you can’t see them. One card, then above it, two more, then a row of three and a single card at the top, farthest away from you.
The Root or Base Chakra
Turn the bottom card: this is the base card that corresponds to the Root chakra: sexuality, fertility, security, and the reason why people like to move when they hear thumping rock music. It speaks to that part of you connected to the ancients. It is also the chakra of obsession and infatuation.
Look at the card and ask: What draws me to that person? Don’t worry too much about the meaning of the card, just allow thoughts to arise. Feel the attraction you felt for him or her. Think about how they spoke and looked. What was it that made you fall for them? Write or speak the answer to the question down fully and in detail. Allow a feeling of trance to settle over you as you do so.
The Sacral Chakra
Turn the left card of the pair above. The Sacral chakra is connected to relationships, emotions and creativity. Look at the card and ask: What are my emotions as I think of my ex-lover? Again, be honest and open. Only you will read this. Let the image suggest feelings and emotions to you. Visualize them pouring out of you. You may feel like crying, and that’s okay.
The Solar Plexus Chakra
Turn the right-hand card. The Solar Plexus chakra is associated with more complex emotions, fear, personal power. There are two questions to answer: 1. What can I really lose by letting go of this relationship? 2. What can I gain from letting go? Write or speak from your gut; when you run out of words, look at the card again and write some more.
The Heart Chakra
Move up to the next row and turn the left-hand card. The Heart chakra is concerned with unconditional love and also rejection. The question you must answer is: What restrictions did I feel while in this relationship? Look at the card. There were conditions and restrictions, for sure. You modified your behavior to fit with the other person. Think about how it affected you. Write it all out.
The Throat Chakra
Turn the middle card. This is the Throat chakra. Self-expression and communication. Pay attention if a Sword card turns up here. Your question is: What lessons could I take away from this relationship experience? Think about the mistakes you wouldn’t repeat, the power you would keep, the compromises you might make and those that you won’t.
The Brow or Third Eye Chakra
The right hand card is the Brow chakra. This is the seat of your self-guidance and intuition. Two questions here: 1. What does your logic tell you about the past? 2. What does your intuition say to you about the future? Think about the questions in the context of the past relationship. Look at the image on the card. Does it support you or point to a self-imposed block? Can you see yourself moving forward?
The Crown Chakra
The final card is the Crown chakra. This is the part of you that connects to the divine. Visualize a white beam of light coming down from above to the top of your head. Feel it suffuse right through you and know that you are loved by a benevolent universe. There are no questions to be answered here. Look at the card, and if it is positive, let the energy of it flow through you with the white light. If it is not such a good one, then let the energy flow from you and away. Sit for a while, then when you are ready, put your cards away and get something small to eat and drink. This will ground you and return you to a normal state.
If you want to write about this experience later you can, but for now, simply bask in the feeling of love and know that no-one else can complete you because you are already complete. Bless the one who gave you the opportunity to learn this truth. Now you can let go of the past, live in the present, open your heart to the future and the deeper, unconditional love of another.