Is this love? What’s wrong with our relationship? How will I recognize my soul mate? These are the three most common questions that a professional tarot reader encounters. Relationships are the best… and sometimes the worst aspects of our lives. We’ve put together three brand new love tarot spreads for when you have a question about romance. All you need is a tarot deck. The deck used throughout for our example readings is The Old English Tarot by Maggie Kneen.
Is this love?
You’ve met the man of your dreams and you are wondering if this is it? Is he the One? It’s hard to tell, isn’t it? Sometimes you are almost flying with happiness and at others, he seems preoccupied and distant. You don’t know where you stand. Try this love tarot spread to clarify your feelings and to get some perspective on the relationship.
There are three cards, laid out in a fan shape. Ensure all the cards are upright; you don’t need reversals for this spread. Shuffle your deck and place the cards down in this sequence, left first (card one), then right (card two) and lastly the center card (card three).
Card 1. My inner guidance offers this advice
Card 2. My lover’s perspective
Card 3. Where are we headed?
Card 1. My inner guidance offers this advice – Eight of Swords. You have created a situation where you are unable to be yourself. It’s almost as if you present yourself as a different person when your lover is around. Now you have built this ‘new you’, you feel as though you can’t do anything about it. Once you can see this, you can begin to slowly dismantle the constricts you have placed around your real personality.
Card 2. My lover’s perspective – Seven of Batons (Wands). Your lover feels under pressure, perhaps from you, perhaps from others. He may be pleased to be in this relationship – his bursts of happiness when in your company indicate this is so – but he needs to be free to make his own choices.
Card 3. Where are we headed? – Judgement. This is make or break time. You are both at a point where you could make a commitment or choose to go your separate ways. It calls for reasonable, adult discussion where both can express their true feelings. If it’s not working for one partner, then it’s not working at all. If you discover that there is deep love, affection and respect for each other then make a pact to work things out.
What’s Wrong with our Relationship?
Again this is a three-card spread. Three cards are useful for love tarot readings as you have three aspects: you, your partner and the relationship itself. Lay the cards out from left to right going upwards in a step formation — if things are difficult, the only way is up, right?
Card 1. Troubling aspects of our relationship
Card 2. Positive aspects of our relationship
Card 3. How can we sort this out?
Card 1. Troubling aspects of our relationship – Three of Swords. You have communication breakdown. Neither of you are making an effort to see things from the other’s point of view. It’s reached the point where disagreement is your first reaction out of habit. Then every time you disagree, you feel awful.
Card 2. Positive aspects of our relationship – The Emperor. You relationship is based on a firm foundation. Somewhere along the line you created something strong. This is the glue that holds you together. Go back over time and think about when this foundation has stood you in good stead. This is not romance but it is a good, solid relationship.
Card 3. How can we sort this out? – Nine of Swords. You are both so wrapped up in your own problems right now that you are unable to see the solution. Your problems are the solution. You must cut through the communication issues, regroup so that you are both on the same side instead of in opposition, and face the issues head on – together. Use those swords to free yourselves; there is plenty more life in your love.
How Will I Recognize my Soul Mate?
This spread is designed to be used when you first meet someone who causes your heart to flutter like a butterfly in a force 9 gale. It will help you clarify whether this encounter has potential to deepen into something very special. Remember, though, that the term ‘soul mate’ means different things to different people. A soul mate might be your twin sister, your best friend or a person you know vaguely but with whom you feel connected. For the purposes of this exercise, we’ll assume it means true romance with the possibility of becoming permanent.
This spread is laid out in a V (for Valentine) shape.
Card 1. Chemistry when we are together
Card 2. Common ground, connections and synchronicities
Card 3. Potential for lasting love
Card 1. Chemistry when we are together – Ten of Cups. This card indicates peacefulness and contentment when you are in each other’s company. Love does not need burning passion to thrive. You provide each other with emotional security. Commitment is not too far away.
Card 2. Common ground, connections and synchronicities – King of Batons (Wands). Your parents may be friends or connected in some way through business. You may have shared personal experiences linked to someone who is very much like the King of Batons. You might have attended the same event – perhaps to see an inspirational speaker or music act. You might work for the same boss. You might both have been involved in passionate, but destructive relationships in the past.
Card 3. Potential for lasting love – Temperance. A card that indicates balance and good chemistry. This is a gentle relationship that you can build on. Take things slowly, develop mutual respect, and love will surely follow.
We hope you enjoy using our love tarot spreads — St Valentine’s day is just around the corner, so bookmark this page as a handy reference.