Questions about relationships are the most common that tarot readers get asked. They may be phrased in different ways, but the following five questions are ones we get asked all the time. If you have a question about love and have a tarot deck nearby, here are five succinct spreads. We’ve included example readings, using the romantic Gilded Tarot by Ciro Marchetti.
There is nothing complicated about these simple two-card spreads. Shuffle your deck, cut the cards, turn the first card, then the second.
What’s Stopping Me from Finding Love?
It’s hard when you feel as though something is blocking your way forward. You want romance, but every time you meet a potential partner, there’s an obstacle to you getting together. He’s already with someone, he’s recovering from a break-up, or maybe he just doesn’t seem interested. What’s a girl to do? Dig out those cards, that’s what.
This spread uses the following positions: 1. Current blocks and 2. How to bust through them. Here’s a sample.
1. Current blocks – Five of Cups
The Five of Cups indicates that you are holding onto past hurt and pain. You may have buried these feelings deep inside you, but they are still there preventing you from moving on. Bring them into the light and feel your way through them. They are nothing but illusions. Let them go.
2. How to bust through them – Three of Swords
The Three of Swords warns you that not being clear in your communication with other people can lead to pain. It is likely that communication problems caused your previous hurt. The advice from this card is to say what you mean and mean what you say. Make sure you understand what others are saying to you. Don’t try to second-guess their meaning.
Where Will I Find Love?
You know love is out there, so how do you make sure you are in the right place at the right time to meet Mr. or Miss Right? What if you missed them because you weren’t at the same event or coffee shop?
In essence, you have to know that there isn’t a right place or time, because everywhere and every-when can be an opportunity for the Universe to put you where you need to be. The trick is to be in tune with feeling the romance. Stop for a moment. Close your eyes and feel the feeling of romantic love. You don’t have to describe it or assign words. Just feel the loving energy. Got it? Okay, now shuffle and draw your cards. You might have to be a bit broad with your interpretations on this one. The positions are: 1. Where? and 2. Where?
1. One place I might find love – The Queen of Cups.
Take it literally, look at where she is. Beside water – a lake? The ocean? A river? A fountain? Swimming pool, perhaps? At a party, maybe? What locations can you connect with this card?
2. Another place where my love could be – Five of Wands.
Again, be literal. In the countryside? At a staged event? Maybe a club – are these boys jostling to gain attention?
See where the cards will take you. Remember to look at the image and take it literally.
Why Do My Relationships Fail?
It happens to all of us. We meet the perfect partner but for some reason, it doesn’t work out. Over and over. Pretty soon, you start to wonder if there’s something wrong with you or are you just attracting the wrong guys.
Try this easy two-card reading using only the court cards. Remove the court cards from the deck and shuffle them. Position 1. The type I always fall for. 2. Who should I be looking for? If you get a card of the ‘wrong’ sex, then simply pretend the character is of the right gender. Here’s a sample:
1. I always fall for — The Knight of Swords.
The Knight of Swords has his attention elsewhere. He is usually on some mission. If that mission isn’t romance, then you are wasting your time. This sort of person will either use you, often unintentionally, or just won’t have time for you. They are attractive because of their detachment and non-availability. You have to recognize them and let them go.
2. Who should I be looking for? — The Page of Pentacles.
The Page of Pentacles may first appear to be too immature for you. However, this Page has more maturity than most of the Knights. They have their feet on the ground and are always ready to learn. You could do worse than hook up with the Page of Pentacles. Give him (or her) a chance and see where it goes.
How Does He Feel About Me?
This is a question many readers shy away from. This is what is called a ‘third-party question.’ In other words, it involves reading someone’s inner feelings without permission. Most ethical readers will do their best to avoid this by rephrasing the question.
One way of doing this is by reading the cards from the seeker’s point of view, as one will often mirror the other. Use only the Major Arcana for this reading. Position 1. My true feelings about him and 2. What qualities do I show to him?
1. My true feelings about him – The High Priestess.
The High Priestess says that you may be hiding your true feelings and need to spend time exploring what they are. You have a strong intuition whether this relationship is right for you or not, so how do you really feel? Only you can answer.
2. What qualities do I show to him? – The Sun.
The Sun indicates that you present a happy and delightful face to the world – and to him. You are positive, kind, and always good to be with. You have no worries in this respect.
Where is This Relationship Going?
You’ve been together a while now, and it seems to be going along quite well. However, you need to know if it is going to develop into something more. Position 1. Where we are right now. Position 2. Should we make this permanent?
1. Where we are right now – The Lovers.
The Lovers confirms that you two are one hundred percent together. Literally welded. No-one can split you up if you feel this strongly about each other.
2. Should we make this permanent? – The Fool.
The Fool says you may feel that taking this relationship to a more permanent status is risky, but you should take a leap of faith because all is well in your Universe.
Adapt These Spreads for Your Question
Your question may not be shown above, but you can adapt any of these two-card readings to fit your concern. Have a think whether your problem can be best answered by all the cards or by the Major Arcana, the Minor Arcana, or the Court cards. Pose your question in such a way that you get a well-rounded response, rather than a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’. Be prepared to read the images literally – sometimes the answer is staring you in the face.