Tarot can help you in many ways. Set aside thoughts of fortune tellers and divination – take a new look at your cards as a therapy tool.
Tarot can help:-
- To heal a relationship
- To come to terms with loss
- With stress and anxiety
- Get over a past relationship
- Deal with a difficult child
- With work problems
- To move on
Three Tarot Self-Help Techniques
Reading Tarot for Yourself
There are several tarot techniques that can set you on a healing path. Reading for yourself is the one most of us choose to start with. You can use quite complex spreads that you can write about and revisit as necessary. Or you can try simple spreads that will set you on the path to recovery right away.
Heal Me Tarot Spread
This is a three-card tarot spread to help you take the first step towards dealing with your problem.
1. What/who am I pushing against?
2. How does this manifest in my body/emotions?
3. How could I release this right now?
As you carry out the reading, do your best to move the thought from your mind into emotion that expresses in your body. So, if you have been worrying about something and those thoughts have been circling endlessly, visualizing them dropping into your solar plexus, situated between your lower ribs and your navel.
Example reading. Janna has been uptight for weeks over her long-term friendship with Terri. They have been friends for years, but Janna is beginning to feel that Terri only wants her company when she has a problem. When Terri’s life is going well, Janna hardly hears from her. Janna is wondering if she is being used. She finds herself thinking about this all the time and feels it as a gnawing in her gut. She is fond of Terri, but perhaps it is time to let the friendship go?
1. Temperance reversed. This card shows that Janna is pushing against the feeling that the friendship is unbalanced. She thinks a friendship should be conducted on an equal basis of give and take. The friendly chemistry that she used to share with her friend is out of whack. Janna can feel this discomfort in her solar plexus.
2. Ace of Cups. As this card represents a feeling of love and friendship, we can look at it as a literal image. Janna sees her affection for Terri pouring or leaking from her heart. She sees the droplets as tears. As she gazes upon this card, emotions well up and she realizes that she would miss Terri greatly if she weren’t part of her life.
3. Three of Pentacles. Janna is reminded of the practical beginnings of their friendship. She and Terri used to work together, and they made a great team. She knows that threes mean cycles in tarot, so maybe one day they could be a team again. She decides to use the energy of the reading to release her negative emotions about the current issues in the friendship. Immediately she feels a sense of relief as her solar plexus relaxes. She can let this go. She will look for ways to rekindle the 50/50 friendship she once had with Terri, and if that isn’t possible right now, she will be okay with it just as it is.
Tarot Meditation for Support
This tarot meditation does not require you to sit still, or struggle to empty your mind. It is simply a way to open up a channel of communication between your conscious thought and your subconscious knowledge.
The first step is to choose a Major Arcana card that best represents you right now, dealing with your negative situation. So, for example, let’s say you are worried about finances. Go through the Majors until you find a card that mirrors your feelings.You could choose the Fool, who looks like he is about to fall off a cliff. Or you might select the Hanged Man, who seems powerless in his upside-down position. Perhaps the Devil reminds you that you are chained to debt or a job you hate. Maybe the Hermit in his rags might be better? Pick the one that fits best with your idea of financial problems.
The second step is to choose a Major Arcana card that represents how you would prefer to be, financially. The Empress, surrounded by abundance? The Chariot, in control of life? Perhaps the World, showing your accomplishment and achievements?
Put the two cards side by side and let them talk to each other. It may seem a little weird, but let them speak in your mind. Ask questions of them. Ask how you get from one to the other. Ask why you feel so bad about money. Ask them if they have any advice. You can write it down if it’s easier to do so. If you are able, let yourself free-write fast without thinking. Just let it happen and allow the energy of the two cards to direct your hand. You might not even consciously know what you are writing until afterward.
Once you have run out of words, read over what you wrote. Hopefully, you should feel better and may well have some guidance to follow. You can try this anytime you find yourself overwhelmed by worry.
Tarot Card Scripting to Improve a Problem or Remove an Obstacle
Tarot scripting is similar to the tarot meditation described above, except that your writing is more deliberate. You identify the situation using an appropriate card in the deck, and then you choose a second to represent where you want to be. You don’t have to choose by meaning, though you can do that, of course. Images are very strong reflections of emotion, so pick the cards that resonate with your problem.
You then list between five and ten steps to move from your problem to your solution. You don’t have to worry about working it out – if you could do that, you wouldn’t be seeking help from the tarot.
Here’s an example. Carla is anxious about her teenage son. He has become distant and irritable of late, and she is worried he has got in with the wrong crowd. She doesn’t want to prevent his growth to independence but at the same time she wants him to stay safe and make a positive contribution to family life.
Carla has chosen the Three of Swords to represent where she is – worried, anxious, broken down communication with her son. She chooses the Ten of Pentacles to visually represent how she would like the generations of her family to be in harmony at home.
1. Identify the problem: I am worried about Jack. He stays out late and gets mad at us for no reason. I’m really worried that he’s taking drugs or being led down the wrong path.
2. Move one step to feeling better: I know he needs his independence, but I’m still worried.
3. Take another step: Not all his friends are bad. I quite like Wayne, he’s a good boy. Nice and polite.
4. Another: I remember – last week Jack laughed at a joke his younger brother made at dinner. I’d like us all to be that relaxed more often.
5. Halfway there: I am pretty sure this is a phase. That Jack just needs to spread his wings.
6. Take another step: His father and I have brought him up to respect his body and other people. He’s not taking drugs – it’s my imagination getting out of hand.
7. Feeling better: All I can do is be loving toward him and make sure he knows that we can give him more freedom, but there are still boundaries he can’t cross.
8. Better still: I know that Jack loves us.
9. Almost done: I know that Jack loves us. He loves his family. He’s a teenager going through changes. We can live with it for a little longer.
10: Finish it: I am happy Jack is such a good and loving son. I am so proud of him. He works hard at school and he does everything we ask him to. I couldn’t be more pleased with our beautiful boy.
Now, the last few sentences are where you want your relationship to be. You can see how you moved yourself from Three of Swords despair to Ten of Pentacles certainty. It might not be like that immediately, but if you continue with the exercise, perhaps two or three times a week, you will change your inner state, which will have a profound effect on your circumstances. Swap the cards and words out, as necessary, starting off with where you feel you are at that particular time, always moving toward your desired outcome.
You will be surprised and very pleased that after a week or two, you will begin to notice improvements… and do make sure you recognize and acknowledge them to yourself. You don’t have to tell anyone that you are doing this work – it’s between you, your cards and your journal.
How Does Tarot Help?
The cards act as mirrors to reflect back to us what we need to know. They act as lenses to focus our attention and concentration. They also act guides to help us along the sometimes stony path of life. In themselves, they don’t do anything – ultimately it’s all down to you and your amazing, problem-solving subconscious. The tarot helps open the doors to your own wisdom.